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Obituary for Mary Kesson Simmonds

Mary Simmonds Obituary

Coquitlam. Mary Kesson Simmonds (McMillan) passed away peacefully on March 2nd, 2022.  Mary was born May 8 th ,1928 in Dunblane, Scotland, the daughter of Ann and Bob McMillan.

Mary had two sisters Netta MacPherson and Vie Simpson, who she was very close to, but both predeceased many years earlier. In fact, Mary not one to disclose her age publicly, probably wouldn’t appreciate this message being so forthcoming. But her story is too inspirational to leave anything out. Mary, during her childhood graced the small Scottish countryside full of life and zeal. She was adventurous and never shy to seize the moment to make an impression. In fact, it was one night as a teenager while ice skating that Mary met the love of her life Ray Simmonds and so began their storybook journey. The chemistry was instant and when Ray returned from the war they married on March 24, 1948, and moved to New Westminster, B.C. to start a new life. This love story continued lovingly until Ray’s death just five months ago.

Mary held several jobs, but it was her dedication as a mother and remarkable wife that truly defined her life. She could often be heard speaking proudly of her boys, grandchildren, or great grandchildren accomplishments. To be fair, Mary could often be heard talking regardless of the topic. Since she had an innate ability to strike up a conversation with anyone within sight and would always generate a smile upon encounter. Mary would connect with others immediately through her outgoing nature and effervescent spirit. She was a loving soul and caring person who made a lasting impression. She was a lady with a unique fashion sense (often literally sparkling), a flair for entertaining and a tender heart that had a deep love for her family. She was a people person who would share her personality generously with family, friends, and strangers. Those of us fortunate enough to be in her company always knew they were in for a treat. Mary spoke her mind openly and without hesitation, so you always knew where she stood, but it was never without love and good intentions. She was a fabulous host and an amazing cook who could effortlessly prepare something signature. Mary could make a meal out of anything in her pantry and sometimes took great creative license with this approach. This gift made many ordinary occasions truly memorable. I suppose this talent came from growing up with little and making the most of what you have. Mary shared that philosophy in life. Despite her struggles at times, she never complained and would often say “there is someone worse off” as she embraced life fully and always with optimism and hope. Mary naturally made you feel good and alive.

Despite the overwhelming sadness, the family takes comfort in knowing Mary can rejoin the love of her life Ray.  They are now together again holding hands, sharing a laugh, and planning their next adventure. I am sure her favorite song “Seven Spanish Angels” would be playing in the background as she nurses a decaf cappuccino that Ray has lovingly prepared for her. Mary always knew what she liked and how she wanted it done!  Mary has left us with an ache in our hearts and will be missed dearly and forever. But in her words “she is off to the happy hunting grounds”.

Survived by sons, Rob (Liz), Malcolm (Lynda), grandchildren Ryan, Shannon (Jimmy), Devin, Liam and great grandchildren Lennox and Dax. Mary also leaves behind many nieces and nephews in Scotland. She also had numerous friends that she loved and made memories with along the way. The family would like to thank The Madison Long-term Care Facility in Coquitlam B.C. for their wonderful care and devotion as they helped Mary deal with the loss of her beloved Ray.

The family has elected to have a small private service only and Mary’s ashes will be thoughtfully placed alongside Ray in both New Westminster, British Columbia and Boise, Idaho to enable both her boys and families to honor her life.